Random Ranting – lukegajary.org https://lukegajary.org Mon, 19 Oct 2020 01:55:50 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.5 https://lukegajary.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/09/cropped-sitefavicon-32x32.png Random Ranting – lukegajary.org https://lukegajary.org 32 32 Learn from hard stuff https://lukegajary.org/learn-from-hard-stuff/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=learn-from-hard-stuff https://lukegajary.org/learn-from-hard-stuff/#respond Mon, 19 Oct 2020 01:55:48 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1591

My dad used to say that life is about passing a series of tests, and God will let you keep retaking them until you pass. ⁣

years ago, I was going through a really frustrating season at my job. There was some stuff going on that was really eating at me. There wasn’t really much I could do to change the situation other than quit, and I didn’t feel led to do that at that time. ⁣

So, I started an Evernote file of things I was learning from and about the situation. What not to do, how not to treat people if I ever walked through it again, how to handle difficult people, and throngs that I felt in that season. ⁣

It didn’t change the situation. But it helped me see the big picture and realize that there was a learning opportunity hidden within the hardship. ⁣

It’s a practice I’ve stuck to over the years… keeping a ledger of learning from hard things. Anything I face that is frustrating and taxing (professionally, ministry, marriage, kids) gets a notebook file. ⁣

It also reminds me that I’ve written about hard stuff before and always get though it. ⁣

Be intentional with hard seasons and watch growth accelerate.

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Spiritual Gypsies https://lukegajary.org/spiritual-gypsies/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=spiritual-gypsies https://lukegajary.org/spiritual-gypsies/#respond Mon, 19 Oct 2020 01:54:43 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1588 In today’s charismatic Christian circles, there seems to be a strange trend of hopping from church to church to serve or “minister” in different places while neglecting to stay planted in one home for very long. ⁣

I was burdened with this for our local community today in prayer, but I know it’s a more widespread issue. In fact, years ago I was talking about this idea with the worship pastor at our prior church, Keegan Sidhu, about this particularly in the worship circles. He mentioned it feels like people are trying to build their own individual artists platforms and influence rather than dig in and build the local church. ⁣

This is not an issue exclusively plaguing worship leaders and musicians though, it’s many people – I’ve been guilty of it as well. We value opportunities and platforms over faithfulness and ditch digging. ⁣

In prayer today The Lord began to speak to me about Gypsies and Rogue Agents in the Body of Christ. Did some research and found some interesting parallels. ⁣

????Gypsies (or Roma’s) were nomadic in order to survive. They were heavily discriminated against and only hung out in an area until they were run off. ⁣
????They didn’t submit to any local government but held their own set of rules (hmmmmm).⁣
????They didn’t claim any one religion, rather they absorbed for a season whatever was the popular religion of the area (again, hmmmm… sounds like an identity issue, huh? Like many believers who hop around)⁣


Then I looked up the word Rogue, the other word bouncing around in my head: ⁣

“an animal of vicious character that has separated from the main herd and leads a solitary life. Ex: a Rogue Elephant”⁣

Know anyone with “vicious” character who has decided it’s easier to do life alone and that planting deep isn’t worth it? That solitary life is more their style ? Same type of people that claim church isn’t necessary or who often quote things like “I love Jesus but not his people”⁣

Another thing Keegan said was that often times people use the “I’m planted in the kingdom” or “I’m more about the Capital C Church” as justification for not truly planting themselves for the long haul or an extended period of time in a local church.

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I Don’t Think The World Is Ending https://lukegajary.org/i-dont-think-the-world-is-ending/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=i-dont-think-the-world-is-ending https://lukegajary.org/i-dont-think-the-world-is-ending/#respond Mon, 19 Oct 2020 01:38:58 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1582 For as long as I have been a believer, I have noticed there are many preachers who prey on weaker or more immature Christians. They play into the fears many of us have, and much like the main stream media, they use fear and paranoia to bring in listeners and build an audience. Prosperity preachers play into our fear of poverty, and promise wealth and riches if we just give enough money to God. I’m noticing in the middle of this pandemic that there is a plethora of people playing into another fear – the fear of the end of the world. ⁣

Sadly it’s very low hanging fruit, to simply say the world is ending and then share words as to why. You would think we’d recognize the fear mongering by now but for some reason many still fall for the latest viral sermon video , crazy dream someone had, or latest book on how everything is burning to the ground.⁣

It’s one thing to share a prophetic word the Lord laid on your heart in the middle of a hard season, but it’s another thing to take this global difficulty we are experiencing and turn it into in ministry marketing campaign.⁣

I worked in marketing for a mega ministry years ago, and it left me kind of cynical for good reason – Seeing the dark underbelly of how mega ministers turn good messages into money making machines is a little bit unsettling at the minimum (who knows , maybe I’ll write a book about that one day ????). ⁣

Maybe the world is ending and we’re in the middle of it. Maybe it’s not. Either way I’m not a huge fan of preying on people’s fears.

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The Holiday Hustle (It’s Not What You Think) https://lukegajary.org/holiday-hustle/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=holiday-hustle https://lukegajary.org/holiday-hustle/#respond Sat, 07 Dec 2019 05:05:50 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1557

I️ guess one thing you do when you’re old is marvel / complain about how quickly time is going by. Since I recently turned 32 and am feeling like a full fledged adult now, I’ll take my opportunity to do that here.

December already? Wow, I️ can’t believe Christmas is nearly upon us, it feels like 2019 just flew past!

I️ want to take a moment and encourage everyone reading this that has a side hustle, or lives as an independent business owner full time. I️ believe one of two things can happen in the midst of this season, and the reality is…over the next two weeks, everyone is slowing their life and business down.

You can join the masses and begin the shutdown, and to a degree, I️ recommend that. Taking time with family, unplugging, and being fully present in this magical season is very important.

HOWEVER…

The majority of people will do nothing, then look up on December 31 and decide to turn their hustle back on for 2020.

Here’s an idea: don’t turn the hustle off. As you may know, I️ wrote and launched a book a couple years ago (if you don’t have a copy yet, get yours here: https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Well-Faith-Encourage-Others/dp/0990873870/).

Let’a take a look at numbers and the timeline so I can show you how I kept the HUSTLE engine running through this exact season two years ago.

Tell It Well is approximately 40,000 words long (the average Christian nonfiction is 50,000-80,000 words, so this book is a quicker read than most).

I wrote 25,000 words between September 2014 and June 2016. I was writing casually, and I kept setting the book on my back burner in my brain to work on other projects and ventures.

Then in October of 2016, I attended a publishing workshop and re-ignited the fire for the project. (More details on that whole story & process here: https://lukegajary.org/dreams-change/)

I wrote 15,000 + words in November and December of 2016 and finished the manuscript just after New Year’s Day 2017. I decided to buckle down and use the slowness of the season to finish my personal passion project. The rest of the world had slowed down and disconnected, so it made it even easier to focus and produce good words.

I hope you decide to use the time wisely. Find a rhythm and a balance, but use the slow months to get set up for success in 2020.

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When Your Dreams Change https://lukegajary.org/dreams-change/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=dreams-change https://lukegajary.org/dreams-change/#comments Thu, 03 Aug 2017 04:21:16 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1416

In June of 2014, I began writing a book I called “Landmark”.

I’d always had a dream to write and publish my first book before I was 30 (more on that later) and I decided that summer was the time to knock it out. I started just throwing up words on the page, and created a rough outline and vague direction. This book would be about building a personal history with God, and mostly featured my own personal God-Stories with some scripture sprinkled in.

In September, I got a random email from a well known publishing house that they were running a contest looking for new Christian non-fiction authors. Great timing, this was surely my big break! I carefully read the fine print to ensure that if I lost the contest my work would remain my own intellectual property. Yep! Green light officially LIT & I decided to go for it!

I called my friend Jared who I knew was an incredible editor and ran his own publishing company, and asked if he would help fine tune my manuscript. He said yes, and agreed to edit my book for basically a Snickers bar and a 20% coupon for Bed Bath and Beyond. Okay not literally, but in the end I pretty much paid him pennies.

The deadline for the contest was November 31. I knew that my book was about 60% of the way to where I wanted it, and I determined at this point in September that I could finish it and submit it in time. I also determined that even if it didn’t win, I would work with my friend Jared to eventually publish it anyway, on my own.

I hustled, and got about 25,000 words written in those 90 days. Only 20,000 of those were actually good words, but I felt like the overall manuscript was pretty solid. Jared did a quick yet excellent edit, and *click*, I submitted the work.

I put it in the back of my mind and nearly forgot about it. We had just had a baby, so it was easy to put the project on the back burner for the time being. In January, I got a nice email from the publishers that I didn’t win, even as a runner up, but I was more than welcome to continue the self-publishing process for a small consulting fee and by choosing a publishing package from $3,000 – $5,000.

Okay, oh well. I knew I was going to publish it anyway through Jared, so I dove back in to the manuscript and added some more quality chapters.

Then I got frustrated and felt like something wasn’t clicking.

Those of you that know me, you know what I do when I get frustrated with a project or idea…
…I walk away.

So I put it down and forgot about it. Jared reached out to me a few times about finishing it up and I think he just eventually got tired of asking me about it since I clearly wasn’t interested in it anymore.

I thought about it from time to time, but all of 2015 for the most part, I ignored it and kept myself busy with other side projects, my job, my family, and serving in church.

2016 came around. In January I started thinking about the book again, but I was still restless about it and something just BOTHERED me about it.  I didn’t know what to change about it but I knew it was off.

Then in April, we had a service in our church that was totally focused on testimonies. We just had person after person take the mic and share a recent story of what God had done in their lives. Some were hearings, financial miracles, stories of angelic encounters…awesome stuff. I noticed something that I’ve noticed before about these type of services, but it particularly bothered me this time. About half the people that came up to share their story were terrible at it. Hear me out, I’m not trying to be mean…but I was taken aback by how weakly these stories were presented. Here are these powerful stories of life, and love, and redemption, and the miraculous, and the power of God…and yet they are being presented with no passion or excitement.

I get it, some people have a hard time on stage in front of people, and I understand that. But others just didn’t have confidence or zeal for the power of the story. Still others emphasized the “before” side of the story, and when the God moment happened, it wasn’t given proper airtime or “punch” in the telling of the story.

I thought back to other similar services I’d been in, and realized this wasn’t an isolated issue. A lot of Christians simply don’t tell the stories well.

That week, I stumbled across a quote on Instagram that struck me.

“The most important message deserved the most excellent presentation.”

It hit me – I needed to work on a way to help emphasize the importance of excellence when telling the stories of God’s work in our lives!

I revisited my book, and scrapped some sections. I changed the outline, the preface, and decided a new fresh direction for the whole thing.

In October I attended a publishing and writing seminar for Christian authors and it gave me a new fire for the project and equipped me with practical tools and action steps. Jared was excited to hear about the book finally moving forward and he partnered with me in a big way to make it a reality. Words flowed on the page in an exciting and inspired way, and I was thrilled with the shape of the book.

It finally had a purpose, a deeper meaning than a collection of cute stories! It still had stories, but I added stories of others too and not just my own. I added some more Scripture teachings, and some practical advice in the realm of building a good story.

As you’ve probably seen, that book is now a reality and I have hundreds of copies of the finished book in my garage, ready for distribution (I’ll link to it below if you want to pre-order yours)!

My point is not to simply market my book to you right now – but to encourage you if you’ve shelved a personal project or idea.

Let it marinate, and be okay with it changing directions a bit. I went through a big “silent” season in this project, but I’m convinced 100% that I have a better finished product as a result. It doesn’t even have the same title anymore!

Even the cheapest cut of meat can become delicious, savory and succulent when left in a crock-pot or smoker for many hours…so how much more effect can a little time and distance have on your idea?

Don’t be frustrated in the waiting – do the work, put in the effort, give yourself some time, and watch what comes out in the end. Be patient, you got this!

Luke Gajary

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Prophetic Words for 2017 https://lukegajary.org/prophetic-words-for-2017/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=prophetic-words-for-2017 https://lukegajary.org/prophetic-words-for-2017/#respond Fri, 30 Dec 2016 14:10:13 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1207
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The Weird Trend https://lukegajary.org/the-weird-trend/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-weird-trend https://lukegajary.org/the-weird-trend/#respond Wed, 21 Dec 2016 05:42:48 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1194 I’ve noticed a trend in marketing specifically with Christian authors, and it’s starting to bother me. I’m not trying to judge and this is not a slam – who knows, maybe one day I’ll succumb to similar tactics due to necessity of the market.
I hope not.

Obviously online marketing works, it’s an industry I work in, and I’m for it. I’m currently marketing to you and you don’t even know it! I mean, have you seen my new headshot profile picture? CLEARLY I want to look professional online and have an audience that likes what I say…I’m actually working on and implementing some creative ways to build my own email list and social media following as well.

However, the pattern I see repeating in this specific circle grates against me- particular for Christian, Bible based material.
I have seen this scenario play out 4 times in the past 3 years, and each of the authors were non-fiction Christian (I have seen in both male and female authors):

???? 1. Author starts with a fairly small project that (somewhat) unexpectedly takes off.

???? 2. He scrambles to keep up with the popularity and has quickly amassed a strong social media following.

???? 3. He produces great free content online. Incredible blogs, inspiring videos, and free resources that drive home all the points that made me fall in love with him to begin with. He speaks and travels.

????4. He writes another book, this time with his larger audience and the marketing is stronger. He’s getting better at this. His message is still authentic, raw and true to himself.

???? 5. *the weird part starts* Somewhere here he starts turning everything in to a marketing pitch for his (now) brand. It starts feeling less authentic. You’re no longer connecting with the story as deeply… you’re starting to feel like his customer being upsold to.

???? 6. He comes out with an e-course video series for several hundred dollars. Or a conference. Or both. Of course, if you enter your email you’ll get a free e-book with a teaser of some of the same content. This will show you how badly you need his course or conference.

???? 7. Now he has begun the shift from authentic raw author to digital marketing, brand, and message expert pitching me on why I need his digital products.

????NOW LET ME SAY that I understand writing books is not very lucrative for 97% of authors. They truly have to get creative to make money other ways – and monetizing a platform is a great idea.

I just wonder if anyone else feels the way I do – does this strategy dilute the messaging and story, or is it simply a necessary nuisance we’re okay with because we love the original message the author conveys?

❓Have you noticed this trend or am I reading too far in to a few isolated examples?

❓Should I back off and let authors do what they need to do to make a living?

❓Have you grown numb to all e-courses, e-books, and digital downloads because you feel like it’s all just a ploy to get your email?

This rant has been brought to you by some spicy Chinese food, the letter R, and the ???? emoji.

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Thoughts on Tipping https://lukegajary.org/tipping/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=tipping https://lukegajary.org/tipping/#respond Thu, 11 Aug 2016 19:02:50 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1110

Last week, we ate at a nice restaurant that I’d never been to before, and had exceptionally great service. It caused me to reflect back on my 6 years of waiting tables, and I had some thoughts that I felt are worth sharing, and may or may not be commonly well known.

  •  Always go in to the meal planning on tipping 20%. That is the minimum base rate for acceptable service.
  •  The tip will be adjusted based on the service throughout the course of the meal. If my water glass is left empty for too long, or if they are absent often, or he’s being too conversational when we are on a date, or a myriad of other reasons, I will mentally start subtracting from the base tip. (I heard of a guy who goes to a restaurant and sets a stack of 20 one dollar bills on the table, then tells the server “That’s your tip. Bills will start leaving the stack if your service is bad.” Okay, so literally doing that is kind of…rough…but I basically do the same thing in my head).
  •  Never blame kitchen issues on the server. The chef overcooked your steak, not the server. Don’t take it out on him by lessening the tip. Chances are, he’s trying hard to make it right and he’s mad at the chef too.
  •  Busyness of the restaurant must factor in to the tip subtraction. You can’t expect the same attention on a Friday at 7p that you’d get on a Tuesday during lunchtime.
  • Never tip below 10%, even if it’s the worst service you ever had. Unless they peed in your drink or something, they still deserve some payment. Servers only make $2.13 an hour in their checks, which quickly disappears to Uncle Sam, so literally every penny they earn is from your tips.
  • Sunday lunches after church – ALWAYS tip well. I change my base tip rate to 30% on Sundays, because every server knows it’s the Christians coming to eat after church. Sadly, many servers have a very low view of Sunday Christians because we often fail to tip, are rude, or let our kids run amuck in the restaurant after loading up on goldfish and kool-aid at church.
  •  Your server is reciting through the script of welcome and daily specials because he has to, not because he wants to. Don’t be rude or interrupt.

To all my current and former server friends – what do you guys think? Anything missing from my list? Anything on there you would challenge or change?

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Celebrating Marriage https://lukegajary.org/celebrating-marriage/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=celebrating-marriage https://lukegajary.org/celebrating-marriage/#respond Mon, 02 May 2016 01:40:27 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1081 A strong marriage is worth celebrating!

Not a perfect marriage, not an instagram-worthy marriage, but a strong one in the midst of challenges and “I-didn’t-know-it-would-be-like-this” moments.

Funny thing is, we start off marriage here in America with a huge planned party with friends and family (and sometimes people you don’t necessarily love but know they’ll bring the Vita-mix).

We often rack up a ton of debt to throw this barn buster, pull out all the stops and spare no expense (said in John Hammond’s voice).

Then we spend 10-14 days in a paradise of our choice, living a perfect fantasy (creepy wink) with the love of our lives.
Every moment has lead to this, it’s perfect, and the celebration feels so right

Then life hits. Sometimes in the first year, sometimes later down the road, but it gets tough at some point.

People told you it would get tough, you just didn’t know what it would FEEL like.

Guess what?

It’s still worth celebrating.

Maybe it’s tough, but it’s yours, it’s incredible, and it’s worth it.

So to all the married’s out there, fighting through the tough stuff right now…

…I just want to spend a status celebrating you and your marriage!

And to all those who have fought long and hard and are walking in celebratory seasons right now…party on!

Here’s to strong, storm-proof marriages.

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Never Seen Star Wars? Start Here. https://lukegajary.org/never-seen-star-wars-start-here/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=never-seen-star-wars-start-here https://lukegajary.org/never-seen-star-wars-start-here/#respond Wed, 23 Dec 2015 19:35:34 +0000 https://lukegajary.org/?p=1046 Star Wars TFA everything my inner teenage nerd wanted it to be. Awesome!

On a related note, it has come to my attention that I keep some of the wrong kind of friends around here on FB – the kind of friends that have never seen ANY Star Wars…Shame, shame.

If you are one of these wrong friendships in my life, and want to turn your life around by getting started on the Star Wars adventure, my recommendation would be this: (Fellow nerds, feel free to chime in with your comments or different recommendation but keep this a *SPOILER FREE* zone)

As you know, the saga was released in a seemingly strange order, and it “starts” in the middle, with Episodes released beginning in 1977. Then, the prequels, Episodes I, II , and III were released beginning in 1999. In my mind, these are “optional” and not as iconic or well-done as the originals (three words – Jar Jar Binks). Of course as with any great movie, the re-visits are never as good as the original.

Don’t get me wrong – I dressed up as Yoda, complete with big green ears and standing in line on my knees – when Episode III came out…so they’re still exciting to a Star Wars fan.

Now, in 2012, Disney bought Star Wars and announced a continuation with VII, VIII, and IX. Ready to make the leap in to the great universe that is Star Wars?

Here’s what I suggest you do… Watch the original release first: Episode IV, V , and VI. Then, head to the theater and watch the new one, Episode VII. Later, when you have time, go back and watch Episodes I, II, and III, but only if you want more back-story. These are “optional” in my opinion. They are nearly irrelevant to this new one – this way, you save time in having to get caught up on the entire saga, by only having to watch 3 movies instead of 6. *Nerd Rant Over*

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